Change can be something positive or negative. When the change is positive—say, getting promoted at work or receiving a pay rise—you embrace it fully. However, when the change is negative—losing your job, for instance—you often refuse to accept it.
The problem here is that the changes in your life will remain whether or not you like what it brings as a result. As such, you need to learn how to respond to negative changes in a positive manner. If you’re having trouble dealing with changes, here are some tips that can help:
Talk to Someone
Sometimes, when you don’t like what’s happening in your life, you just want to vent. Indeed, studies have shown that positive venting can help reduce stress levels. To facilitate this, find someone you trust. Active listening and empathy are crucial to positive venting, so the person you are venting to must be someone with whom you can feel safe. With that in mind, your family members or close friends may be good candidates for this.
You may also want to consider talking to a holistic career coaching to help you respond positively to negative change. Holistic career coaches make use of different principles, including natal chart reading, in their quest to help you rediscover or realign your purpose in life. In addition, they can also help you learn more about yourself. Indeed, developing self-knowledge and self-awareness can help you focus not on the negative change but on the opportunities that it can open for you.
Look at the Bigger Picture
When things change abruptly, your focus ends up getting diverted. You can only think about that single event, sometimes to the point of hyper fixation. However, that change is just a small part of your journey. It might feel that it’s taking over your whole life, but it’s all a matter of perspective.
Try to take a step back and take a look at the bigger picture. This can help you see that while a certain event may be significant, it’s not the entirety of your life’s experiences. You may even end up realising that the change that you are experiencing is just a small ‘blip’ on your personal timeline. If you want, you can consult with your holistic career coach to help you understand how this bigger picture. Certain practices and principles such as astrological readings can help you get a fresher perspective.
Indeed, taking things into perspective can help immensely when you’re distracted and emotional. It can help you find your ground again, not to mention see the silver linings in all kinds of situations. More importantly, taking a step back can help you refocus your energy into taking action rather than being reactive.
Focus on Yourself
It’s normal to think about how change can affect the people and things around you. For example, when you lose your job, it’s almost an automatic response to worry about your financial situation and your home life. However, before you focus on these matters, you need to think about yourself first.
Though this is easier said than done, it’s a necessary step to deal with any change in a more positive manner. Remember that a change—whatever it is—in your life affects you the most. Thus, it’s only logical to focus on yourself. This way, you lessen your dependency on external influences and you can make choices that improve your well-being. As a result, you can make better decisions and even reinvent yourself.
The key is to allow yourself to explore. As previously mentioned, you need to look at the bigger picture and try a new perspective. In relation to the job loss scenario above, for example, you can consult a holistic career coach for the best career astrology advice to help you get hired. You may end up discovering a new career direction or even reigniting your passions outside of work.
Consciously Choose to Move Forward
There are two things you can do when you experience sudden, undesirable change: wallow in the outcome or move forward. Both of these are conscious choices. Choosing the latter (and trusting the process) means you can allocate your focus and energy on better things. You may even learn how to let go of your fears along the way.
If you have to, make a checklist of the things you want and need to do to adapt. Then, take action. Tick off the items on that list one by one. Seeing your progress on paper can help motivate you to take more positive actions to bring about the changes and results that you want.
Take Your Time
While taking action is an important part of responding to change, taking your time is equally as important. Sometimes, in our eagerness to fix things, we end up making irresponsible decisions. We react instead of responding to the situation, which can worsen the outcome.
Remember that life is not a race but a marathon. There’s no proverbial finish line to cross. This means you can take your time, study the situation, and responsibly make the necessary decisions. Don’t rush things; rather, take them one step at a time. After all, you can’t change everything for the better in just one day.
Obviously, some changes force you to make immediate decisions. However, most of the time, you have the opportunity to slow down. Take it. It will give you the presence of mind to deal with the situation in a more rational manner.
Remember, change is an inevitable fact of life for us all. Thus, it’s important to learn how to positively respond to change. That way, you can avoid wasting your time and energy on things that don’t drive you toward the outcome that you want.
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